Its never the victims fault.

The other day, in my sociology of health and illness class, we were talking about risk taking behaviour among adolescents and young adults; college students in particular. And the discussion went to parties and binge drinking in college and this turned to rape. My lecturer said “why would you (a girl) go to a party/bash and drink when you know you are not strong enough to protect yourself from danger? Zoziyamba dala.” I was shocked. Shocked that this educated man was part of the victim-shaming crowd.
By saying, the girl started it, you are insinuating that the victim wanted to be raped deep down. That when the victim was saying no she actually meant yes. This thinking is why most victims of rape don’t come out and report to authorities that would help cage these malicious monsters.
Sexual Activity is supposed to be consensual. It does not matter if the person is drunk, sober, naked, dressed, powerless, male, female, black, white, your partner or really anything, if the person doesn’t want then no sexual activity should happen.
I have had conversations with men who believe that men can not be raped, because erections to them are because of mind stimulation. What about the men who are drugged and taken advantage of? Is that not rape? I think mainstream society does not allow us to believe that males too can be raped and this is part of the reason why most male victims do not report and if they ever speak about it its more of a brag than call for help.
Stop victim shaming. Stop all these stereotypes sorrounding rape and victims. It is never the victims fault.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s